Since 2010, I have been looking at videos, discussions and blogs relating to AMBW and interracial relationships. It involved one side of the story because a lot of girls were more open to make videos of their opinions but what about the guys?
I managed to find some english subtitled interviews with Japanese men about this topic.
The first video done by MyHusbandisJapanese (or Rachel and Jun) interviews a selection of Japanese boys on dating and their ideal type. What I liked about this video is that they have chosen a few guys who have different reasons and approaches. A few of them seem to be learning English and would like to date a girl who speaks English and Japanese.
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The second one uploaded by Saitamaflowers follows an interview with a man who explains why he likes foreign girls rather a Japanese women and would date them. He seems to be very open to women of all nationalities and speaks out about his preferences.
I’m hoping some girls who feel insecure towards approaching Japanese boys (or in general Asian boys) see these videos and feel a bit of positivity towards this. There are some people who think that if you support these interracial couples, you are desperate to be with a person of one race. After this, I have seen many posts recently where they feel uncomfortable about approaching Asian guys or are discouraged need a bit of a push.
If you are learning Japanese and want to meet someone, it will be good practice for you to try and speak more. Make more friends who are Japanese or learning the language along with getting a penpal to improve your writing.
If you read my other post about liking one race before this, you would know that was from research. Like I said there, I have no clue what I believe to be right or wrong. These are observations from the thoughts of others on the internet and people are entitled to like who you like for whatever reason you have regardless of gender or race.
I don’t believe so…do some of the guys interviewed look that way to you?
If this is the type of guy you are into, I’d recommend being aggressive in both identifying the traits of the men who are most likely to be receptive to you, and focusing your efforts on that. My personal opinion is that the Japanese culture is kind of fucked up, in a more politically correct way you could say that it is becoming increasingly disenchanted and fragmented.
Regarding the post, I think that it is a false choice of topic.The concept of “choosing your type” or “selecting your ideal” is feminine by nature, and something that is more typical for women to be thinking of than men. In other words, it’s a selectee option, not a selector option. The types of questions that these guys are being asked are the types of questions you would typically ask women in Cosmo.
It’s clear to me that you’re addressing a role reversal, which makes sense given that Asian men on average pursue less than non-Asian men. I always say that the two factors “holding down” Asian dudes in the marketplace are not just the societally-inflicted ones, but also the self-inflicted cultural ones. I hope that non-Asian girls who are into Asian guys continue to be outspoken advocates for their men, but I mainly hope that Asian guys step it up with their game.
This was a fairly interesting read/watch. I appreciate your effort in addressing, as microscopic as it was, the Asian male perspective as to why he may be interested in dating a foreign female.
As for myself, I’m more interested in the cultural/societal afflictions on interracial dating/couples. However, as you mentioned before, there seems to be an influx of people who are having trouble just approaching the other race. Therefore, It’s interesting that these videos are being used to an extent… as some sort of validation to go after what you want.
I think it’s great that people, like you, who support these relationships are outspoken, trying to look at the situation objectively, and from different perspectives!
Hopefully more Asian males will take the initiative to add their input and therefore give balance to this kind of topic.
Kudos!
These type of videos have been floating around for a while. About two years ago there were some video posted on Youtube from a black guy living in Japan that asked men particularly about dating black women and most of them were open to the idea. I don’t think it’s that difficult finding a Japanese guy in Japan to date, especially with the younger generations. However, the initial idea of a foreigner in Japan is still a blond haired, blue eyed American. This is usually what they’re looking for when they think “Western” or “Foreign.” But Japan also gets a fair amount of American media shuffled over to them compared to other countries.
But I didn’t have trouble meeting and dating men in Japan. Knowing Japanese can be helpful, but you’ll find that a lot of guys want to speak to you in English or talk to you about your own culture. You have to be careful because you’ll just become a free teacher for them. A lot of them are not looking for foreign girls who “act Japanese” and talk about how kawaii everything is. Knowing things about Japanese and your own culture probably gives you the best advantage. People were impressed that I could listen to Utada Hikaru and turned around and listen to Ne-Yo. They liked that I knew about NANA, Ainori, and London Hearts, but also enjoyed Sex and the City, 24, and Lost (These things were all popular when I was in Japan so it’s been about 5 years).
It’s also important to remember that despite culture differences men will be men. So there are some really nice Japanese guys and some really jerky ones. None of this has to do with them being Japanese, it just has to do with them being naturally nice guys or naturally jerky guys.
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